Yesterday we talk about why a old man is old because of his thinking, today we are going to touch on Focus, The power of concentration. I actually got some feedback from friends that its really hard to understand the information i put out, do leave a comment below to let me know how i can improve. This chapter on how to get what you really want is first to identify what you really want, which many might say, money, fame or fast car. However example in the first part of the chapter shows celebrity and successful people killing themselves even thou they are rich and loved by many. We also found out why they ended their life. The goal to get what you really want is actually to be able to control your emotions regardless what situation comes.
You can get depressed now just by focusing on a past experience that was horrible to you. Start picturing it, think about it pretty soon you will be able to feel it. If today you when to a lousy movie, will you choose to go back and watch it again? I bet you won’t but many of us are doing this inside our own head everyday and we often focus in advance and predict what is going to happen and after that we get depressed in advance for things that haven’t happen. Funny? But we are doing this to ourselves in a day to day basis. We can be sad, so can we control our focus and be happy? Of course you can!
Whatever we focus on becomes our idea of reality. Focus is not reality, think of your focus as a camera, its only one view, one person perception. If you when to a party with your camera, and the area you sat on had a group of people fighting, how would the party be represented? Unpleasant, frustrating? No one is having a good time and everyone was fighting? However you must always remember there is also another side of the party that is having fun, telling jokes and everyone is having a good time.
Meaning is often a matter of focus. If you scheduled a business meeting and the other person is late. How you feel will be determine but what meaning you focus on. You can be thinking that the other person don’t care or you can think that the person is having difficulties to come to the meeting. Whatever we focus on determines how we feel, we shouldn’t jump into conclusions and choose what we focus on carefully. Focus on where you want to go, not on your fear. A Racer when about to crash gotta focus his attention on the direction he wants to go and not on the wall that he is about to crash in. If you look at your fear, you will have no chance in avoiding the crash but if you focus on where you want to go, your chances of success immediately increase by 10fold. Not saying you will succeed but if you focus on fear you 100% will fail. “Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you will find. Knock and it will be opened to you.”
The most powerful way to control your focus is by asking questions. You can ask why is this person taking advantage of me? then you will be thinking that you got taken advantage of, weather is it true or not. However if You ask how can we turn this around? You will get a more empowering answer! A good example is this kid who got bullied in school, he when home thinking i am going to kill that bully, i am going to kill that bully and took his mother gun out. He when searching for the target and finally he found that bully, he took aim and suddenly a question came to his head. What will happen to me if i pull the trigger. He imagine that he will be in jail, with other prisoner and have to stay up all night incase he get rape inside. The potential pain was greater than what revenge can bring and he shift his aim and shot the tree instead.
The most important take away from this chapter is, All that you really want in life is to change how you feel. All your emotions are nothing but biochemical storms in your brain, and you are in control of them at any moment in time. you can feel esctasy right now, or you can feel pain or depressed, its all up to you. You don’t need drugs or anything else to do it.