Ever wonder why you are not happy? How some one can be happy and why you are not? Are they expecting lesser in life so they are easily contented and therefore they are more happy? Is this really the truth?
There was this perfect place for people to watch the eclipse and many had paid a huge amount of money just to be at this special spot for this once in a lifetime experience for the 4 minutes eclipse. By 7:10am the clouds had increased and were getting larger by the minute. Suddenly, the sun broke through a hole in cloud, and a partial eclipse was seen. The crowd greeted it with excited applause, but soon it was covered by the clouds. It became obvious that we wouldn’t be able to watch the moon overtake the sun. Then the large crowd of people rush over to the Big Screen set that on of the TV crew erected. There we sat watching the eclipse on national television. Everyone at that moment reacted differently. The situation that all of us face is the same. Some said “I spend $4,000 and traveled all this way, just so i could watch this for four minutes on television?” a few feet away “i can’t believe we missed it! with the daughter reminding her “But, Mum, it’s happening right now!” Some “Isn’t this incredible?” “I feel so lucky to be here!”
The ironic thing of all was that within fifteen to twenty minutes, the trade winds had cleared all the clouds from the sky. It was now blue and clear, and the eclipse was revealed. However many has when back to their room, feeling disappointed and they continued to give themselves the sensations of pain because their expectation has not been met.
People would get so excited and emotional about something like the eclipse which is merely a four minute shadow. If you really think about it, it’s no more of a miracle than the sun coming up each morning! Can you imagine if every morning people from all over the world got up early so they could watch the sun come up? And be really excited and happy about life? Imagine if the CNN opened every broadcast with, “Good morning, once again, the miracle has happened- the sun has risen!” Could we? You bet we could!
What has to happen in order for us to feel good? Do you need to be hug? kiss? or make love to in order for you to feel good? Do you have to run 5 miles a day so you can feel good? What really has to happen in order for you to feel good? The truth is that nothing has to happen in order for you to feel good! You can feel good right now for absolutely no reason whatsoever!As long as we structure our lives in a way where our happiness is dependent upon something we cannot control, then we will experience pain. We can always decide to enjoy the event no matter what happened. It wasn’t that we didn’t have expectations, its was that we decided that no matter what happened, we will find a way to enjoy it. To adopt this rule is to raise your standards. It means you have to hold yourself to a higher standard of enjoying yourself despite the conditions of the moment.
Rules that we give ourself determine if we will be happy or not. Like for example, many people will have a different answer to “Do you have a great body?” A set of criteria will be trigger that you believe constitutes to having a great body. How do you know if the other person love you. You will also have your own set of believe.
Like if he loves me he will never raise his voice at me or if you love me then you will do whatever i want you to do. Or if you love me then i can whine and nag and complain and you should just accept it. Does this sounds familiar? Are these appropriate rules? Hardly! They would be unfair to anyone you were sharing a relationship with. One woman who attended date with destiny really wanted to have a close relationship with a man. However she has rules that disempower her. First she need a guy who will pursue her constantly even thou she rejected them. Second rule is if he kept on for more than a month, she will lose her respect and therefore her attraction to him. Sometimes the rules that we give ourself stop us from getting what we want and we can’t seem to understand why. And you thought you only want to be love and you can’t get it so there is a lot of pain.
Understand your mind, we can be happy, we can be sad. Make your choice and take charge!